The dialogues that take place between me and Mary of Nazareth, acknowledge the wisdom in the heart’s troubles as well as its joy. I tend to share a lot of troubles. Mary Love (my friend of almost three decades), spoke of “trouble talk” long ago. We’d “do” trouble talk and then settle down into those dialogues that cause us to soar into a dimension that comes from our power to create The New. 

I realize that this happens with almost all of my women friends, and increasingly now, with my men friends as well. Trouble talk is not complaining. It’s sharing anything that is disturbing our hearts. And the just plain annoying traffic jam at the grocery store, or the weather—which here in Minnesota—just won’t give way to spring, or let you make it down your iced driveway to the mailbox. Recognition of feeling frees us from the idea that we can’t complain or are only complaining. It lets us hear the voice of wisdom as it arises in each other and it’s not just what happens “after” we settle down, but what is upheld by the whole of it. Talking about how we feel has degraded inappropriately into the word “complaining.” We accept the protest of trouble talk now because protest gives way to praise. 

What can you create from melancholy, from loneliness? What can you release—by way of dialogue, or on paper or canvas or clay—of your anger or rage, disappointment, or distress? Aren’t feelings part of the alchemy of the feminine that we can share with the masculine? Sometimes we “get it out” simply to let it go, and that’s enough. But sometimes we get it out so we can see newly and create a new feeling, initiate a new circumstance, or design a way to greater peace in the world. 

As you and I accept all of our feelings, we are opening them to the feminine alchemy of changing form and birthing The New.

The Feminine Alchemy of Changing Form 



The New